First off, don’t worry; we’ve already accounted for this. You won’t lose connection with any of the guys…you just need to make some more elbow room around the fire.

You already know that firepit runs on conversation – if guys can’t engage, they’ll leave. And with each guy you add, there’s less time to talk. It’s simple math.

Tell the guys you’ve been thinking about making a change to the ideal size of 6-8. Let them know there’s a way to do it without losing connection that makes it better for everyone. They’ll nod in agreement…it just makes sense.

Then, ask who’d be interested in leading a slice of the group. Don’t divvy up the guys during a firepit…it’ll bring up feelings of being on the fourth grade playground waiting to be picked for flag football.

Guys should be connected with leaders based on the factors explained in the tool called “pick your guys.” Guys will initially favor close friends, but be careful – diversity is important. It adds complexity and keeps conversations interesting. Plus, that quiet guy might blow you away when he finally has time to talk! Meet with potential leaders outside of the group and discuss who goes where. Each leader should then call their guys and invite them to the new location. If someone doesn’t want to go, don’t force it…pick someone else.

As soon as possible, make the switch. Don’t leave the group in limbo.

Your decision to create smaller groups will quickly pay off. Guys will be more committed and have deeper relationships almost instantly. And when it comes to having fun and helping others, mix things up! Sometimes it should be just the immediate group (to strengthen bonds). Other times it can include all the groups (to keep everyone connected).