Greener grass
Leaders Prep Section
Watch this video, read these notes, and send the pre-written email (below) to your group 2-3 days before you meet.
Notes
The idea that “familiarity breeds contempt,” combined with instant access to endless beautiful women has placed us men on the downhill side of a roller coaster. And it’s only going to get faster.
Group Guide Starts Here
Introduction
For most of history, a man had access to only a few women close to his age. It was rare for a man to know even two-dozen women during his pre-marriage years. Now, with the Internet, online dating, and sexy selfies on social media…we have reached an unprecedented hallmark moment that will undoubtedly change everything. Never before have so many men been able to see so many boobs.
As quickly as possible, and as a group, name 10 beautiful women that most every man would recognize. Everyone has to contribute at least one name to the list.
Assuming you were free to pursue any of these women, and they were all at least willing to go on one date with you, what percentage of them do you think you would have a chance with?
There are two hormones that ramp up in the early stages of a relationship: Adrenaline and Phenylethylamine. These hormones contribute to that “new relationship buzz” that makes the beginning of relationships so much fun. However, these hormone levels diminish as the relationship continues and we get used to certain experiences. There is no natural way to sustain them.
In your current (or last) relationship, how long did the “new relationship buzz” last for you? What were you like during that phase?
If you could stay in that phase, would you want to?
Match.com, launched in 1995, is now the largest dating application on the planet. As of Feb, 2020, Match.com has 9.8 million paying subscribers. According to a study that they conducted, 64% of users said it was easy to find someone they wanted to meet in person. However, even though they could find a date, 45% of users still said using the service made them feel frustrated.
If you were single and looking, would you choose online dating? Why or why not?
For the guys that are single (or are about to be), what does the rest of the group believe are two traits those guys should highlight on their online profile to attract women?
(Ask this only if you have single guys in the group) A lot of guys imagine finding a woman with some new trait; something they haven’t had in previous relationships.
For the single guys in the group who are looking for a new partner, what new qualities are the most important to you?