Over the past couple of discussions, we’ve taken a broad look at a man’s character. Now, we’re going to look at ourselves…but with a twist.

You have an assignment. Prior to our next meeting, you will ask 3-5 other men, “What do you think of me as a man?” You will bring their responses back to the group and share them.

• Ask people from your past and present.
• Ask people who know you from different settings (professional, casual, etc.).
• Ask at least one man who might not like you. You’ll appreciate the negative feedback more than you’d think.
• Do not ask your wife or ex.

I will send you an email you can optionally use that explains what you are asking them and why.

Here is the email I will send you:

Hey,

I am part of a men’s group and we are talking about what makes a good man and what kind of impact they have on the world around them.  We’ve been asked to do an assignment: ask 3-5 other men to tell me what they think of me “as a man.”  I’d like your response.  This isn’t necessarily what you think of me as an employee, friend or father; it’s about your impression of me as a man.

If you need help thinking about this, here are a few questions to ask yourself:

• Would you follow me into a potentially dangerous situation?
• Would you confide in me?
• Would you ask me for help or rely on me when it’s something critical?

Please don’t just answer these specific questions – these are here only to prompt your thinking.

I’d also like to know where you think I could improve.  For me, this is the most important part of this exercise. 

I chose you because we’ve known each other for a while and I thought you’d take this seriously enough to give me constructive things to think about.  Feel free to say anything. 

Please respond by email this week.  

Thanks for the time.